Rejection HURTS! On Friday I was rejected for yet another job. Yes, they let me down kindly, saying there were an exceptional calibre of candidates and they would keep my details on file for future opportunities. But it still stings. Yup sulking on the floor in my bedroom.
Its been 3 years since I held a professional job – I can’t quite believe it. I’ve had a few casual jobs for a few months, but nothing that really taps my expertise or has lasted. There are a few reasons behind this and I think this is a message from the universe.
Firstly you might be thinking I’m not qualified enough for these jobs. Nope, if anything I’m over qualified. I have too many pieces of paper to mark my academic achievements. I also have had a few different careers: exploration geologist, science teacher, executive officer, TAFE lecturer, e-learning technologist, and of course waitress 😉
Maybe this rejection is really a push to go in another different direction?
Perhaps all theses steps I take to get a job working for someone else are actually steps towards being my own boss. I mean, I am the boss of my own life, I have knowledge, skills and experience and I LOVE TO SHARE! So I am taking this latest hit as the FINAL push I need to really embrace myself and what I have to offer to the world and make it happen. I am going to work with my passions and help others. My passion is de-mystifying mental illness and I want to help others live their best life with their mental illness.
Watch this space…….
What job do you think I should do?
Have you found your passion project/job?
So been here… Just recently and terrified to go for every job/interviews for employment and also for higher study. It’s all so hard to deal with people. I’m too f****** kind for my own good and can’t say no. even after 10 -25years of really trying to (so I try too hard to please my employers, over work, allow to be underpaid, get annoyed, let it build up inside me until the stress is unbearable and then the employee usually says and/or does something to trigger me to stress even further and I often either quit, break down and pull out, start being late or complain too much in one day, let know the wrong person how my mental struggles are requiring support, yet they don’t understand one iota of what I’m talking about… Whatever the case, it all tends to wrap up by generally turning to shite… And my family don’t want to hear it anymore, my girlfriends can’t help – they have their own, as they see it, worse problems, so they lend a sympathetic ear but it eventually gets old on everyone… And I don’t resolve things too well.
Does ANY of that sound familiar?
Hi Carrie,
YES, yes it sounds very familiar. I too have created many a self-sabotaging death spiral in past jobs! I’m a perfectionist so I worked hard, over-delivered in my job then got annoyed when my hard work or achievements were not acknowledged or appreciated. Then I started nit picking and complaining, if I got overwhelmed then I would take long breaks, or leave early…..all contributing to a spiral that either ended with me quitting or being ‘let go’.
Recognising the pattern is the start to changing it.
When I listen to my friends complaining about their jobs over the years I start to notice what their patterns are and often come up with ideas for what I think they should change. Perhaps if you feel comfortable and safe with a good friend to ask them what they have noticed and what advice have they been holding off giving you?
Thanks for commenting,
Lou xo